Frequently Asked Questions

Why such a structured approach?

I did couples therapy for seven years using the same therapy model I do now (EFT) but in the typical open-ended way most therapists use. What I found was that after about 15-20 sessions, I really wasn’t helping the clients with any new information. As I would go on, I could be two or three years with a couple, not being sure if I was actually doing anything helpful. I assumed the clients would end therapy if it wasn’t helpful, but realized couples therapy itself creates a double bind for people. If one says they want to end the therapy, it can be a huge danger cue to the other partner. It’s too risky, so both people stay, regardless of if we’re actually helping.

Do we have to stay all 20 sessions or pre-pay?

Not at all. No one should be trapped into therapy! Pay as you go, end any time.

What if we’re not better after 20 sessions?

I will have a clear conversation with you each, if you want, where I am sharing where I think the blocks are and where you may want to explore that in individual therapy, or with a different type of couples therapist.

What if I come from a lot of trauma, and want a slower approach?

First, that is excellent that you know that, and you absolutely deserve that kind of couples therapy. And, I am not going to be the right fit for you. I